When I started to write these blogs, I believed that it was
important to discuss a variety of topics – including ones that we don’t often discuss, but are nevertheless important to do just that. Finding out that there is a correlation between self-harm and chronic pain peeps, including fibromyalgia and CFS/ME was an eye opener.
In connecting with other people with chronic pain conditions, it became very clear that a) this is a topic that needs to not only be discussed more -but have proper research carried out (there’s not much!) and b) I self harm.
Did You Know…
Self-harm goes far beyond cutting and burning?
Here is a study that was carried out on 105 people with chronic pain and below is the list of self-harm behaviours that were studied :
|Cut yourself on purpose||8||6.8|
|Burned yourself on purpose||2||1.7|
|Banged your head on purpose||14||12.0|
|Driven recklessly on purpose||26||22.2|
|Scratched yourself on purpose||4||3.4|
|Prevented wounds from healing||1||0.9|
|Made medical situations worse, on purpose||6||5.1|
|Set yourself up in a relationship to be rejected||20||17.1|
|Abused prescription medication||10||8.5|
|Distanced yourself from God as punishment||8||6.8|
|Engaged in emotionally abusive relationships||29||24.8|
|Engaged in sexually abusive relationships||6||5.1|
|Lost a job on purpose||8||6.8|
|Exercised an injury on purpose||3||2.6|
|Tortured yourself with self-defeating thoughts||21||17.9|
|Starved yourself to hurt yourself||6||5.1|
|Abused laxatives to hurt yourself||1||0.9|
Ok, well, this is my take on it! So please comment and share your thoughts and experiences about this…it will be interesting to read what others experience.
For myself, I definitely turn to food and smoking when I am in a lot of pain. I also go into a mode where my pain is high and I slip into OCD. I have this ongoing dialogue in my head that goes like, ‘I’m already in a lot of pain, so at this stage, it can’t get any worse than it is.’ (Lie! It does get worse!).
I also believe that so many of us have experienced ongoing emotions about our illnesses.
When we have a conditions that fluctuate constantly, day to day (hour to hour) and you start hearing from your family, your doctor etc that it’s ‘all in your head’, you are hurt, frustrated, upset and angry (as just a few of the many emotions).
Many of us turn to food, alcohol, smoking, eating/not eating and causing physical injury to ourselves as a release and escapism.
I also believe that there are a lot of external factors going on now more than ever in regards to how you should look, your weight, material goods, health, wealth, stress, grief, financial issues, family issues…the list is endless.
So What Do We Do About It?
We Take Care of Ourselves!
We Make the Decision That
We Are Indeed WORTHY!
We Believe In Ourselves!
We Don’t Give Up!
Every Day is a New Start!
We Start Loving Ourselves
We Understand That Vulnerability is Courage
I absolutely LOVE Dr. Brene Brown and her research (and amazing storytelling) on vulnerability and shame. This is an awesome Ted Talks video about shame (below).
I love Dr. Brown’s down to earth attitude and many LOL moments in her videos. She makes sense. And simplifies things. A lot of ‘Aha’ moments in fact!
Please watch the video below. Worth the time. In fact, it may change your life! (I’m listening to it right now, she’s so funny!).
‘Vulnerability is not weakness, it is the biggest act of courage’. Dr. Brene Brown
We’re Not Alone…
I know full well that this is the case with MANY of the people I am friends with as well as support.
Suicide is the, dare I say, ‘ultimate’ form of self-harm and when we are in so much pain that nothing is taking even the edge off…well, all we want is release – and relief. I get it.
Here is a link to a post from a fellow chronic pain person, who I think aptly describes their experience of pain, doctors not helping, treatments and medications not working…and they are at the end of their tether.
Anger, Pain, Hurt and Self-Harm
‘Many self harmers find it difficult to verbalise how they feel, and may have blocked off or detached from their feelings of pain, hurt, anger, etc. Self harm can be used as a way of feeling something physically which they are unable to feel emotionally. It is not uncommon for a person who self harms to say they are not angry yet in reality there is often an enormous amount of anger inside which they are turning inwards on themselves.
This is Interesting..
‘The biological bases of the relationship between self-harm and pain is, as yet, unclear. Some theorists have argued that early experience of trauma damages certain neuroanatomical pathways in the brain related to the release of endorphins, which are implicated in the regulation of emotional states. In individuals whose neural pathways are affected in this way, it is suggested that deliberate self-harm may offer a means of releasing endorphins.
Others have noted changes in the brain systems utilizing the neurotransmitter serotonin in both suicide and deliberate self-harm. The role of these systems in both the development and maintenance of deliberate self-harm behaviours remains to be fully elucidated.’ (Pinched from the Wellcome Trust).
Well…I think it is rather interesting in regards to endorphins and seratonin…We know that fibromyalgia and CFS/ME are central nervous system disorders…so this would certainly fall in line with this line of thought.
What To Do About It
Here are some excellent Distraction Techniques from Cornell University
Feeling Sad or Depressed
• Do something slow and soothing.
• Take a hot bath with bath oil or bubbles.
• Curl up under a comforter with hot cocoa and a good book.
• Slash an empty plastic soda bottle or a piece of heavy cardboard or an old shirt or sock.
• Squeeze ice.
• Do something that will give you a sharp sensation, like eating lemon.
For a more comprehensive list of distraction techniques for emotions such as feeling empty, unreal, craving something, feeling guilty or bad and other coping techniques please go here.
Once We Recognise an Issue We Have Opportunity to Change
I think, as with all things, once we recognise that we have an issue going on, we have the opportunity to change how we want to deal with it.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Please share if you have found this helpful…you never know, you may share it with someone who gets the help they need. Also, if there are other helpful resources that you would like to share, please add the link in the comment section and I will add it.